How To Cope With Miscarriage

How To Cope With Miscarriage

 

Different people handle miscarriage in different ways, but it’s not uncommon to feel devastated as you would after any other loss in your life. If you’re having trouble coping with a miscarriage or it’s causing a rift in your relationship with your partner, ask your doctor for a referral to a therapist for counseling services.

 

Try not to let distance grow between you and your partner. 

This one’s easily done. He’ll see the whole situation differently. He might try to fix it. He might wonder why it’s taking you so long to get over it. He probably won’t have a clue about the million and one ways it affects you every day. Unless you explain it in terms he’ll understand.

 

 Get your Friends around you 

Friends or relatives; it really doesn’t matter – you need women you can trust. Women you can cry with. Women who can hug you. Because no matter how sympathetic a man is, a woman will understand you in a very different way, and part of the healing lies in fully comprehending the loss, all its implications, navigating the train wreck and beginning to get a little perspective.

Take your time to “get over it”

Grief affects everyone differently. Don’t anticipate a certain length of time before you feel ‘normal’. Go with what works for you at the moment. Don’t rush. Whatever you’re feeling is normal, has been felt by others before you, is not completely mad. If you need it, seek professional help to get through this.

Take care of yourself

It should go without saying, but it’s easy to let grief swallow you whole. It’s a vile, heartbroken place to be, (and you may hate me for saying it if you’re still in that darkness) but you did not stop living. You will do yourself no favors in the short or long run if you grind to a halt. You need to eat, you need to wash, you need to get up in the morning and do *something*. Even if these things seem hollow and pointless, keep going – persist and it will help you later. Do it for the ‘you’ in a few months time.

 

The loss of a child in pregnancy is a terrible tragedy which can never un-happen. If it’s happened to you, you’re part of the Invisible Moms Club. Your life was altered the moment conception took place; you are a Mom, and it’s heartbreaking that you haven’t that child to show for it. Yet Good can still be wrought, even of this pain – whether it’s sharing your story so that understanding and compassion can be spread, or being able to offer a shred of comfort and hope to a young woman suddenly faced with the loss of her unborn child and all that entails.

 

Miscarriage Causes

Miscarriage Causes

Experiencing the loss of a pregnancy can be devastating and you’ll probably have a lot of questions, including why did this happen? It’s not uncommon to start blaming yourself, but most miscarriages happen in the first trimester of pregnancy for reasons that are beyond your control. In the majority of cases, there’s no way to prevent a miscarriage and nothing you could or should have done differently. Below are three common miscarriage causes.

 

What Causes Miscarriage?

A miscarriage sometimes happens because there is a weakness of the cervix, called an incompetent cervix, which cannot hold the pregnancy. A miscarriage from an incompetent cervix usually occurs in the second trimester. There are usually few symptoms of a miscarriage caused by cervical insufficiency.

 

Chromosomal abnormalities

More than half of early miscarriages are due to a chromosomal abnormality when the sperm and egg come together but one of them has too many or too few chromosomes, those tiny structures in each cell that carries our genes. A chromosome abnormality, disorder, anomaly, aberration, or mutation is a missing, extra, or irregular portion of chromosomal DNA. It can be from a typical number of chromosomes or a structural abnormality in one or more chromosomes.

Medical disorders

Chronic medical conditions such as blood clotting disorders, thyroid disease, and diabetes can increase your miscarriage risk. Certain autoimmune diseases, such as lupus, can also directly affect pregnancy. That doesn’t mean that if you have an autoimmune problem, you can’t deliver a healthy baby, but you do need to talk to your doctor about the risks of miscarriage and complications, and the best ways to plan for pregnancy.

Uterine abnormalities

A uterine malformation is a type of female genital malformation resulting from an abnormal development of the Müllerian duct(s) during embryogenesis. Symptoms range from amenorrhea, infertility, recurrent pregnancy loss, and pain, to normal functioning depending on the nature of the defect.

Missed miscarriage or miscarriage at 4 weeks

A missed miscarriage, also sometimes known as a silent miscarriage or missed abortion, can happen anytime prior to week 20 when an embryo or fetus dies but the body hasn’t recognized the loss or gotten rid of the pregnancy tissue. Since the placenta may still continue to release hormones, some women keep having pregnancy symptoms, but others may have a loss of pregnancy symptoms and a brownish discharge. A missed miscarriage is often diagnosed during a checkup when a doctor no longer finds a heartbeat.

Threatened miscarriage

A missed miscarriage, also known as a missed abortion or a silent miscarriage, occurs when a fetus dies, but the body does not recognize the pregnancy loss or expel the pregnancy tissue. As a result, the placenta may still continue to release hormones, so the woman may continue to experience signs of pregnancy. A threatened miscarriage is your body’s way of giving you a warning sign that miscarriage is a possibility during the first three months. You may experience symptoms of vaginal bleeding and abdominal pain, but the cervix remains closed and a heartbeat remains.

Incomplete miscarriage

An incomplete miscarriage happens when your body only pushes out some of the pregnancy tissue. Symptoms include bleeding, cramping and a dilated cervix. A pregnancy test might still be positive but the fetus is no longer viable. Most of the time an incomplete miscarriage will become complete on its own, but you may need medical intervention to help remove the remaining tissue. An incomplete miscarriage often requires treatment. Medicine or a procedure call dilation and curettage (D&C) is used to clear the tissue from the uterus.

Blighted ovum

A blighted ovum occurs when a fertilized egg implants in the uterus but doesn’t develop into an embryo. It is also referred to as an anembryonic (no embryo) pregnancy and is a leading cause of early pregnancy failure or miscarriage. Often it occurs so early that you don’t even know you are pregnant. Your doctor may call this an “anembryonic pregnancy,” and it almost always happens in the first trimester. It means that the fertilized egg attached to the wall of your uterus, and while it may have begun to develop a placenta, it never developed into an embryo.

 

What Does Miscarriage Feel Like?

The amount of pain varies for everyone. Some women feel nothing and don’t even realize it’s happening; others feel a range of aching and cramping, from mild to strong, like a really bad period; and some women experience full-on, painful labor contractions that last for hours or even days.

If the pain is really intense, the bleeding is very heavy (you’re soaking a pad every hour) or the remains of the pregnancy don’t pass completely (an ultrasound will confirm this), your doctor may perform a D&C (dilation and curettage) or, if you’re beyond the 14-week mark, a D&E (dilation and evacuation). Brief surgical procedures will put an end to cramps and bleed and help prevent an infection, which may happen if any of that tissue remains behind in the uterus. Both procedures are typically done in a hospital or surgical center, and you’ll either get local or general anesthesia, so you shouldn’t feel anything. Unless there are complications (which are rare), you can usually go home the same day. Expect some strong cramping the first 24 hours after the procedure—that’s totally normal—and then mild cramping and light spotting for a few days up to two weeks. Taking Tylenol or Advil can help alleviate any post-procedure pain.

 

Can stress cause miscarriage?

There’s no evidence that stress directly affects miscarriage risk, but it may play a role. Research shows that a mother’s physical and emotional state—including her fitness level and quality of nutrition—can raise or lower her level of stress sensitivity, potentially influencing everything from fertility and conception to the quality of the placenta and the risk for premature labor. Focusing on nutrition, exercise (approved by your doctor) and mind-body relaxation, especially in the first and second trimesters of pregnancy are best options. But there’s no need to check yourself into a month-long spa retreat (well, unless you want to!). It could be as simple as taking an extra 15 minutes after lunch to listen to some relaxing music, decompress and let your body absorb the nutrients you’ve just eaten.

 

Healthy pregnancy after a miscarriage

 

How soon after a miscarriage can you try to get pregnant again?

It depends on physical and emotional factors. Every case is different, but unless you’ve had other physical complications from your miscarriage, you can usually start trying to conceive once your doctor has given you a green light. Usually can wait until your next normal cycle, anywhere from four to six week. If you want to wait longer that’s totally normal too—give your mind and body the time they need to heal, and you’ll know when you’re ready to try again.

Miscarriage is usually a one-time occurrence. Most women who miscarry go on to have healthy pregnancies after a miscarriage. A small number of women — 1 percent — will have two or more miscarriages. The predicted risk of miscarriage in a future pregnancy remains about 14 percent after one miscarriage.

If the cause of your miscarriages can’t be identified, don’t lose hope. Most women who experience repeated miscarriages are likely to eventually have healthy pregnancies.

 

Symptoms of Miscarriage

Symptoms of Miscarriage

Numerous environmental and biological effects may cause a number of issues to the developing fetus. A miscarriage or spontaneous abortion is defined as the loss of a pregnancy during the first 20 weeks of pregnancy. However, up to 75% of miscarriages happen in the first trimester.

The unhealthy living is unquestionably the greatest enemy of a developing fetus, while there can be much milder or serious medical conditions that can harm the growing baby. For example, smoking, drinking alcohol, and drug use during pregnancy cause extreme damage to the fetus and most frequently result in miscarriages or severely damaged babies. Ultimately, no matter the numerous potential causes, every woman should note when the miscarriage actually takes place.

What is a miscarriage?

Miscarriage or spontaneous abortion, which is defined as the spontaneous loss of a pregnancy in the first 20 weeks, is the most common type of pregnancy loss but there are many different types of miscarriage depending on when and how it happens.

To help with the confusion, here’s a look at the specific meanings behind some different symptoms of miscarriage.

 

Bleeding

Bleeding or spotting is the most common miscarriage sign. Bleeding and pain similar to those during periods can potentially signify that something wrong is occurring in the womb. This is the most basic symptom of a miscarriage, and it’s generally always present, no matter the nature of the cause. Bleeding is somewhat frequent during normal pregnancies as well, but only if this involves a transient spotting. If you’re experiencing symptoms of heavy bleeding, clotting, and/or if you feel dizzy or faint during pregnancy, head to the nearest emergency room.

Extreme pain

Cramping is very common during pregnancy. Some women experience more than just cramping. If you’re having painful contractions 5 to 20 minutes apart, this could be a sign of premature labor.However if the pain is intense and extending to the pelvic area and lower back it could be a warning of miscarriage,

especially if bleeding and labor contractions accompany this. Women that have experienced a miscarriage often say that it was the greatest pain they’ve ever felt.

Chills

Chills with fever or pain can be signs of an infection and should be treated by a health professional. Infection might seriously jeopardize the pregnancy. Chills can accompany heavy bleeding during spontaneous abortion due to resulting low blood pressure which hampers a normal distribution of the blood in the body, and thus, leads to a decreased body temperature.

Cramps

Usually, cramps aren’t a worrying sign, since they can also be experienced during normal pregnancies as the body adjusts to a growing baby. However, a pregnant woman who has heavy period-like cramps that don’t cease quickly should seek a medical advice. Cramping might also present as lower back pain or as pelvic pressure. As with bleeding, persisting cramps after the expulsion of the fetus may orient towards an incomplete abortion. In such case, surgical assistance might be needed to expel all the uterine contents.

Experiencing miscarriage is emotionally challenging and having a family consultation is a good approach to helping to pave the path for next pregnancy. Many parents who have experienced miscarriages use the Fetal dopplers in future pregnancies to give them a sense of reassurance and peace.